I’m 31.
Three of my closest friends are in their 40’s.
Another is 18. Another 29.
I LOVE having friends of different ages. It allows me to see myself from fresh angles and glean wisdom and new energy.
But as a natural introvert, I choose close friends selectively. It has neither been an automatic nor easy process, but over the past several years, I have cultivated these friendships via two channels:
1) Mutual values
2) Authenticity
These factors breathe life into the relationship, to foster endurance.
Mutual values could mean core values, i.e. philosophical bent.
Or, secondary values, i.e. valuing independence, growth, or artistic aesthetic.
Core values sharing leverages the highest quality relationship, but secondary values are also valid.
Authenticity, though, is key.
Feeling free to be who you are, even if that means sharing a thought, feeling, idea, or belief that the other party does not agree with.
As commonly attributed to Dr. Seuss….
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”
You may know that quote…but do you live it?
