The highest form of self-interest includes generosity.
Not sacrifice.
Sacrifice is opposing your own will, saying yes when you wish to say no, and saying no when you wish to say yes.
Out of duty, obligation, belief of nobility.
But sacrifice is lose-lose.
Because the one “receiving” the sacrifice knows you don’t want to do it, that you’re not taking pleasure. Even if she doesn’t know it, you’re deceiving her.
But generosity is giving from a place of pleasure.
Giving from abundance.
Giving from choice.
Giving from desire.
Giving from compassion.
Generosity is win-win.
People say “be selfless” in a marriage, for instance. Devote yourself to the happiness of your partner.
But to really do that means also gaining your own happiness from the partner’s happiness.
Because is there a higher joy than knowing someone else revels in reveling you?
Time to end the selfishness-altruism dichotomy.
Seek win-win.
Generosity vs. Sacrifice
