Ep. 17 – Untangle Your Inner Chatter (with Katie Testa)

Non-Violent Communication (NVC) trainer Katie Testa joins me to unpack an empowering methodology that tackles an essential question: how do you interact with your every day internal chatter?

Discussed:

– What is NVC? Basic framework

– Untangling feelings from thoughts

– Developing a vocabulary of feelings (which isn’t common in our culture)

– Making a specific request of another person (be ready to hear “no”)

– NVC and negative self-talk

– There is positive intention for every voice in your head

– Bringing curiosity to the inner critic

– Just pause. Just notice your parts.

– Meditate for 4 minutes or 6 minutes? Joel’s inner conflict.

– How to be Radically Honest

– Don’t listen to people’s words

– A criticism of NVC…

– You don’t have to use NVC

– Being aware of role playing to be a “good” person

– All goes back to self

Mentioned:

– NVC Feelings Inventory

– NVC Needs Inventory

– Marshall Rosenberg (NVC founder) San Francisco workshop

– Honesty Sucks
– Katie Testa